Love is Blind, Deaf & Dumb-or is it?

If you read my earlier blogs you know I have
issues with the 'popular' crowd from high school.
Now, I did have my own crowd of outsiders and
we traveled in some different circles than the
jocks & prom queens.

Because the boyfriends were few and far between
I really was 'blind' to the usual trappings of falling
in love. I can even say I was so blind I didn't even
realize my first boyfriend and my first husband
were physically challenged. Because these men
had regular friends and acted like everyone else
there wasn't attention drawn to the physical
challenges they had overcome.
First it was the 'eyes' -the window to the soul.
Then it was the lengthy conversations. And
somewhere in the middle we were on the dance floor
in one of the favorite clubs in town.
If you are a woman relating to the same dating
patterns you probably stayed committed and
never left -so you were also being left.

Who can ever predict when that authentic soul
mate connection takes place? When do we learn
to value ourselves enough to find a connection
that is worth it? Sometimes conditions are ideal
and you both are available for that relationship.
Most times when you meet those stars are not in
alignment at all.

My soulmate is still out there and knows we have
an unbreakable bond. We knew how to laugh
together but not at the expense of the other.
He was a man who was comfortable in his own
skin and not intimidated by my intelligence
because we learned about facing adult life
challenges together. There was a true level
of respect for each other that still exists today.
We both mentored college bound students.
As parents we exchanged the joys and challenges
we faced raising our sons.

We were never truly available for each other at
the same time or the same place to test the long
term committment.

Years and years down the road my advise is to
always save a space in your heart to remember
how it was to be 'in love' with your soulmate.
It keeps a smile on your face in the turbulent
times. Just to know you were loved and valued
for the unique person you are will make your
daily walk in this life easier.