Understanding Separation

There seems to be times when we remember
sharing dreams and moments with others who
loved the same things.  As we grow wiser and
tend to miss being with certain persons we need
to realize our purpose in life may have unknowingly
separated us from those meaningful people in our
life.

I sometimes selfishly play the 'If only' game and wonder
if things would have played out differently depending
on choices I have made. Then again, did other
people in my life have the same opportunity to make
choices that might have kept us in each other's life?
Maybe to a lesser degree we are still in the hearts,
prayers and minds of those we have touched in our
life.

As I approach another milestone birthday I see the good
things I have done and have only been able to accomplish
because I was truly loved many years ago by that soulmate
companion who briefly shared time with me. Now separated
by miles we have renewed our committment to each other
by written word and occasional phone calls. We rely on the
judgement calls of each other and respect the unique lives
we have carved out for ourselves.

No longer should we play the 'If only' game because we have
given our similar gifts to those who need them around us. We
were meant to be apart so that we could create precious family
moments and leave a certain legacy behind.

I am forever grateful to know I learned valuable ways to love
and be loved so many years ago. Don Henley said it well in
the song, "Wasted Time' -'so you go on with your life, baby
and I'll go on with mine and we'll know it wasn't all wasted
time.'